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QUESTION: Do I have a responsibility to tell a family member or friend if they are doing something wrong?

Wow, what a question. This is a tough one.

Two stories come to mind. The first is in Genesis 4 of Cain who had done something wrong. God asked him, "Where is your brother?" Cain responded, "Am I my brother's keeper?" Cain wanted to avoid responsibility with family.

The second story in Matthew 19 is about the Rich Young Ruler who came to Jesus. When Jesus pointed out to him where he was still lacking, he turned and walked away.

We notice the choices and experiences of those closest to us far more because we are directly affected by what they choose. I like being part of a Christian family who holds each other accountable with love and grace. Proverbs 27:6 says, "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful."

So I guess if our friends and family really are important to us we would rather hear things from those who care rather than those who don't have our best interest in mind. May God continue to pour out His love to you all and send me more of these great questions.

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July 01, 2008 / Ask PJ

P. J. Deming, Milo Adventist Academy pastor/chaplain